Well friends, we are about to wrap up 2017! The year went quickly (as I swear they all do) and I don’t know if I’ve ever been more conflicted on whether a year was a good one or an awful one. There are definitely many many things I am happy to leave behind in 2017. But for the sake of optimism I am looking forwards at the new year ahead and how I can hopefully get my life together for this impending lap around the sun.
Mommin’ ain’t easy, and it kind of makes doing the rest of life a bit harder too. Also, moving out to Colorado and losing the entire support system we had back home has made things harder too. This made a lot of my personal shortcomings blatantly obvious as I didn’t have good friends and family around to help rein in my slack.
I won’t even pretend to be alone in this. We’ve all got hang ups. I certainly know I’m not the only mom that sucks at keeping up with laundry or who goes to bed feeling all the mom guilt because they yelled too much that day. Self improvement is a grueling process friends, but I know we can do it. 😉
In my experience moms always feel most inadequate when it comes to three things; housekeeping, scheduling, and self care. Just me?
I know that I am always most overwhelmed by the never ending mess in my house, the absolutely overwhelming schedule of my three tiny humans (and husband,) and as a result my lack of time and energy to ever take care of myself.
I doubt that there will ever be a perfect system, but these are some areas that I know, if improved upon, would make my life a whoooole lot less stressful overall.
So let’s do this. Getting my Mom Life together in 2018…
Kitchens and Bathrooms
I have fully accepted the fact that my house will never look like something Joanna Gaines styled. Most days my house house looks like a toddler frat house…because it pretty much is. So I’m going to level with myself here…as long as the kitchen and bathrooms are clean I’m going to call it good.
After all, those are the rooms that actually get dirty on a regular basis and not just messy. So I’m going to do my best to keep them clean on the regular, and keep up with the other stuff as I can.
Life Lesson: Pick Your Battles.
I’m Bringing the Agenda
That’s right. Like the middle school style agenda. I know, I know. I’m like every other person on the face of the earth right now and my iPhone is has basically become an anatomical extension of my body… and it has a calendar. Maybe it’s just how my brain works, but when I physically write things down… I actually remember them. And if I don’t remember I have it right there to look at all the time.
I have tried to just remember everything inside my head; special kindergarten lunches, after school events, parent teacher conferences, swim lesson sign ups…. I’ve tried. And I used to succeed. Apparently my brain maxes out at two kids schedules. Because now I forget stuff. Thanksgiving Lunch with my first grader stuff. :/
So here’s to trying an old school method for organizing my many daunting tasks. It worked when I was 13 and so far technology isn’t working for me.
Then also on the topic of scheduling…
I’m Going to Bed Earlier
And yes, I realize this officially means I have gotten old… when one of my actual life goals for a New Year is going to bed at a decent time. I’ve been working on this for a couple months now and I already know that this will be the hardest one for me.
I’m naturally a night owl, an insomniac, and for most of my adult life… I have liked it that way. Anything to the contrary is an affront to my natural circadian rhythm. And it is hard to change. For many years Josh also worked nights, which helped to reinforce this schedule. But as my kids have grown older and attend school now, we have to get up early, which is much harder when you don’t go to bed!
Wrangling three kids at six AM requires real energy. I-slept-for-at-least-six-hours energy. I’ll also have to account for Grey waking me up multiple times a night in those six hours. Because he is the baby that never sleeps.
I’m Going to Prioritize Myself
Yep. Prioritize. As in, I’m not only getting to things that I want or enjoy if everyone else’s needs allow. Now, I will be important in my own life again. No more “pouring from an empty cup” as they say.
This means making time for the gym, for wearing the closet full of clothes that I have more than once a week, and using the cart full of makeup I own whenever I feel like it. Also, going places that I want to go just because I want to.
I’m going to remind myself that it’s okay to matter in my own life.
So there you have it. My plan of attack on 2018. I know that it has to be a better year than 2017. Honestly, if Grey weren’t such a bundle of adorable and Colorado weren’t such a slice of heaven on earth, it would have been one of the worst years of my life. But we can only go forwards from here!